I thought my life was going according to plan. I graduated from high school, was awarded a college athletic scholarship, met a nice Christian boy, graduated with Honors, married the nice Christian boy, had two beautiful children and strived to be the perfect mom, wife and church worker. I looked pretty darn good and, it came at a cost. My health suffered, both physically and mentally. Everyone else seemed to be doing fine, what was wrong with me? I told myself I just needed to try harder. My attempts were futile and I lost my marriage of 27 years. My story was not suppose to go this way. What did I do wrong? Was I that bad? I tried so hard, so very, very hard to do everything “right.”
I knew I needed help. I could not move forward alone. During a workshop I met Jon DeWaal. Jon spoke of coming alongside people who are in transition. I was drowning in transitions! At Liminal Space I found someone to navigate through the wilderness I found myself in. I was invited to explore my story, and to look at how I dealt with transitions in my past and what moving forward might look like. It was a sacred process of both grieving and celebrating. I had done most of my work with Liminal Space via Skype, but I wanted more.
When I was ready to take the next step into discovering “my next” Jon invited me fly to Edmonds for an Intensive. The treasures that were uncovered during those 4 days in Edmonds were priceless. I had done weeks of pre-work to prepare for my time at Liminal Space. The ink was not even dry on the divorce papers when I landed in Seattle. Jon put together a “team” of mentors just for me. My time was allocated between meeting with mentors and experiencing extravagant self care. For a woman who was so good at caring for others, I was highly disrupted with the extent of care showered on me those four days in Edmonds. I will never forget what those four days held for me. It taught me how to receive, and how to humbly receive. Was I worth such care? “Yes”. Not the answer I would have given just a few months before. The work I did during my Intensive revealed my gifting of extravagant hospitality, and how at home I am offering it to others. The time spent in the Intensive helped me believe that I could do so much more than I had ever given myself credit for, and that even others could be impacted by what I had to give. I still had something to offer in this world, and I could offer it unashamed.
I left with homework (labs are what they are called at Liminal Space); labs to teach me how my giftings could be implemented in my everyday world. Despite my initial unbelief that these labs were going to be useful, I completed all of them. Not only did those labs showcase my giftings (to myself!) , but they led me to starting a Airbnb in my home. Much to my amazement, the Airbnb was so successful that my proceeds financed a return trip to the land of my childhood, Hawaii. While there I found the bright, free-spirited and playful Lori that was lost somewhere between college and empty-nesting.
My work with Liminal Space led me outside my comfort zone, encouraged me in taking risks and led me to discovering and honoring my worth. My journey continues and it is in this next chapter that I want to share with others what I have gleaned. The path has led me back to Edmonds to share in this amazing work of freedom and transformation as the Director of Care and Creativity at Liminal Space!